Potty Training

— Dana

Potty Training has been, by far, one of the most frustrating processes I’ve experienced.

For a year, we tried to convince Naomi that the toilet was super cool…and that she needed to start using it. After her first birthday, she actually listened to us and wanted to sit on the throne numerous times throughout the day. We even picked one day each month to focus on potty training. Looking back, this whole idea of potty training early began when a large percent of my friends had their children fully potty trained by 18 months. Since Naomi is my first and only child, I assumed that 18 months was the “right” age to aim for. And from the various bragging stories from my friends…it was a piece of cake and would happen in one day.

We tried. Every month. Without success.

Naomi would spend lots of time sitting on the toilet…but nothing would happen. In November we started to see a glimmer of hope. Aaron and I dedicated a whole WEEKEND to potty training. Naomi was doing amazingly well…for Aaron. As soon as he returned to work, Naomi refused to go potty in the toilet for me. After cleaning five “accidents” in 30 minutes, I decided she could wear diapers until she graduated from High School. (I sort of have an all-or-nothing personality.) So, for three months I gave up the idea of potty training and we went about life as usual.

When Naomi celebrated her second birthday, I started to feel like a failure. I clearly missed the coveted “18 month fully potty trained” mark, and wondered if I was even cut out for parenting. Last week, a ton of snow fell from the sky and, purely out of boredom, I decided to give potty training another shot. With much trepidation, I grabbed Naomi’s little toilet and set it gently on the living room floor. I stripped her down to her birthday suit and said a little prayer.

The Lord heard my little potty prayer.

For two full days, Naomi ran around the house in all her glory. She would play with her toys and then run over to the toilet to go pee. I never once escorted her or asked her if she needed to go to the bathroom. In amazement, I sat there on the floor next to her deserted toys and cherished each successful potty moment…praising the Lord for this wonderful blessing. Since returning home from our five day vacation (in which we took a potty pause), Naomi has been joyfully going potty in her toilet. The lack of diaper changes during the day has been incredibly nice, and I’m looking forward to the day when diapers are a thing of the past.

In the mean time, I’m just grateful that the process has finally started. I am hopeful. The Lord is gracious and perfect in His timing.

“Potty training success hinges on physical and emotional readiness, not a specific age. Many kids show interest in potty training by age 2, but others may not be ready until age 2 1/2 or even older. And there’s no rush. If you start potty training too early, it may only take longer.” – Mayo Clinic